Hate.
This is a highly complex feeling for feeling hate can be more complex. Let me explain.
Hatred can form in many ways. An example is, let's say, there is a new student/employee. You decide that you should try to become friends with them. You introduce them to your friends. But slowly, over time, that person starts to spend a lot of time with your friends. That person now spends so much time with friends, your friends sort of forget your there or don't invite you to their activities.
You probably will start feeling hate toward them. Now, if you hate them, you might show sarcasm and annoyance to them and even disrespect their things and space.
This makes sense why you do this but, have you ever thought that they didn't mean to “steal” your friends and their attention? Have you ever thought that person might not have experience in making friends and maybe feels nervous about it because they maybe had friends but their friends might have dumped them or started ignoring them? Have you ever thought that there was a reason that person did something?
Probably not.
Now that you think about it, you might feel guilty or ashamed. But actually, a lot of people do this.
This is probably because people don't think about other people's perspectives. Now, there are other reasons why you might start hating a person. Maybe they do something that you didn't like? Or they might have disrespected your space or things?
You probably have.
But, have thought you could just ask them to stop disrespecting your things and space? You might have and this is good. Some people don't though. They just complain to their friends that the person is annoying or a bad person. Sometimes people overreact to things. When you start to feel hate toward someone, try to at least think about why they did that thing that made you mad. If you can’t though, maybe try to talk it out with a friend or family member. But you should not feel guilty or ashamed that you feel hate.
Don’t forget other people sometimes feel like this.
Another complex feeling is love. Siblings fight a lot due to disagreements, being annoying, toys, being a “snitch” and many other silly things. Now, if your sibling is the same gender, you might not fight that much because you could have more things to agree on and so on. Sometimes you might not fight just because you and your sibling(s) get along.
Love is a good feeling but, can cause a lot of problems. You might lose friendships trying to get into a relationship, you might have a crush on someone but they seem interested in one of your friends, and so on.
Love can even trigger other feelings, like hate, jealousy, anger, and even sadness.
Let me explain how it triggers these other feelings. So, let's say you like someone, but one day, one of your friends, tells you their crush because they want you to “ship” them and their crush. Now, this is would be a nice thing to do, except...you find out that you and your friend have the same crush.
What would you do in a situation like this?
Some people, would help their friend and ignore their crush on that person. Other people would say no, and try to break them apart. But some people would say no, but just leave this situation alone. OR, now a lot of people probably don't do this, tell their friend that their crush is the same person as yours.
Now, if you choose the first possibility, that could trigger the feeling of sadness. If you choose the second possibility, that could trigger anger or jealousy. But if you picked the third possibility, that probably means that the crush is not that big, or important, or that you might be timid about it. The last possibility though is probably the least common choice you would choose.
Why?
Well, there are many reasons why. Maybe it's because you know that your friendship with that person will be ruined. Or maybe it's because you're shy about the topic. Or maybe it's because your friend will start saying bad things about you.
The thing is that love is very complicated.
At first, you want someone who looks pretty/handsome. But, maybe you want someone who listens to your perspective and respects your opinion. Or maybe you want someone who likes you as you are and doesn't want you to change how you look and how you talk.
Now, if you don't understand how love could trigger other feelings, I will tell you some examples or reasons.
I will first tell you how love could trigger sadness. A breakup. This is probably the most common situation that could trigger sadness. Another possibility for love to trigger sadness is a person doubting themselves or their relationship. An example :*mind* I’m facing many problems I can't take it...I don't think they love me anymore...we fight so much now, why are we even in a relationship?
That last one, “we fight so much now, why are we even in a relationship”, if this thought EVER comes to mind, or some sort of thought that is similar to this, you probably should think about your relationship. If you have a lot of fights in your relationship, you shouldn't just ignore them. Either try to resolve the problem or if you have to, break up. Now, even if you realize what the problem is, and you try to fix it, you still might have to break up with that person. But even if you think that it is for the best, don't go thinking that it won't affect you.
Even though you had issues with your relationship, that doesn't mean that you still loved them. But keep in mind that sometimes it takes time to find a love interest. But that doesn't mean you should stop looking for them.
Now and then you should take a break from looking for your soulmate and enjoy life and your friends and family.
Next is anger.
When I talked about love, I also mentioned anger. But I didn't talk about it that much. Now we will though.
Anger is quite a common feeling. You could feel it almost every day.
This sounds crazy, right?
Well, it's true.
Let me explain how you or other people feel anger every day. This usually applies to people who have siblings. Siblings fight a lot due to disagreements, being annoying, toys, being a “snitch” and many other silly things. Now, if your sibling is the same gender, you might not fight that much because you could have more things to agree on and so on. Sometimes you might not fight just because you and your sibling(s) get along.
But, anger does not just come from having siblings. it can come from your friends, other family members, employees/classmates, and so on. They could have annoyed you in some way, just like a sibling could have.
An example is let’s say one of your friends “borrows” something of yours, but doesn't ask for your permission.
That made you really pissed off.
You give your friend the “cold shoulder” all day. Finally, your friend asks if something is wrong. This makes you really mad because they didn't realize that they “borrowed” one of your belongings. You tell them this but, surprisingly, they seem pissed when you tell them this.
They say, “You are supposed to be my friend. Friends share things. Remember? Sharing is caring. Why are you so pissed?”
You suddenly feel guilty or maybe even ashamed. Now, this does not apply to everyone, because this “friend” of yours is something I call a “fake friend”. A “fake friend”, is someone who pretends to be your friend mainly because they want something, or finds a way to use you.
Let’s say you could have something that they want. They really want it so they decided to become your friend. But they only become your friend so that they could take advantage of you. Now, you might think that you don't have a friend like that, but, think about your friends. Have they ever asked a lot of things from you? They probably have. Now, I'm not saying they are “fake friends”, but you should at least consider your friends. Maybe they haven't asked to borrow things from you, but maybe in public, they bully you.